Mother's Day is all about thanking the most influential women in your life. For some people, that woman is their biological mother, but for others it might mean thanking an adopted mother, two moms, a grandmother or any other woman who cared for and nurtured you. If a woman other than your biological mother played a major role in raising you, Mother's Day is the perfect time to thank her.
Children of adoptive mothers usually celebrate Mother's Day just like other kids, making Mom breakfast in bed, presenting her with a thoughtful gift and spending the day appreciating her and thanking her for her hard work. People who have an active relationship with their biological mothers as well as their adoptive mothers sometimes feel a bind over how to spend the holiday.
Certain adoption support groups have suggested a solution with a proposed Birthmother's Day. Held the Saturday before Mother's Day, this celebration gives you the opportunity to reconnect with your birth mom and catch up on what's been happening in each other's lives. Do what feels right for you and your family - there aren't any hard and fast rules for this special day.
Sometimes having two mothers is better than one. If you're the child of lesbian parents, you've got to work double-duty on Mother's Day, but at least no one feels left out! Many gay and lesbian advocacy groups promote Family Day, a day for celebrating families that don't fit the typical mold.
Family Day is held on different days in different cities. If a group in your city celebrates Family Day, plan to celebrate with them. If your city doesn't have a Family Day, consider starting one or choose to celebrate with your family on the day your moms got their greatest gift – the day they found out they were pregnant or the day they adopted you.
If there's a woman in your life who played a significant role in raising you, don't be afraid to say thanks on Mother's Day. Some card companies make greetings to Grandmother on Mother's Day or to Aunt on Mother's Day. If you can't find a card or gift that fits your situation, give your mother figure a hand-written letter telling her how important she is to you and why you're happy she's in your life.
Remember, families aren't only biological - the people who make up your family, no matter if or how they're related to you, are part of who you are. Mother's Day is the best time to celebrate all the strong women in your life.